After Don and I broke up I spent five years as a single guy. For three of those years I continued living down South. Then in 1977 I transplanted myself to New York City to see if I could make it as a cartoonist.
Two years after that I met Eddie Sedarbaum, a native New Yorker who at the time was a civil servant working for New York City's Department of Social Services.

Do the math. In 2013 we celebrated our 34th anniversary.

The picture above was taken in 1980 by my Mom when we were in Birmingham for a visit.
And if that picture doesn't convince you that Ed is adorable, take a look at this shot of him at right, taken on the occasion of his first haircut!
At left is best portrait of the two of us that any photographer has even taken (and this is not to slight a couple of other photographers who have taken some awfully nice ones that we like a lot.)

New York's Lilyon Aloma, who snapped this in the early '80s, made us look as in love as we really were and as attractive as we could only wish we were. Hence our enduring affection for this particular image.

What adventures we've had!

Eddie and I have never had much traveling moolah, but in the course of two decades we have enjoyed a few neat jaunts.

At right:
It's us at

We do
Big Sur.

Plus, there was London (below).
And wouldja believe that we were in the audience for David Letterman's 5th Anniversary Prime-Time Special, which was taped in an airplane in flight from New York to Miami?!!

Below: See Eddie chatting with "Larry (Bud) Melman" before takeoff.


The guy's
so swift,
y'can't get
him in focus!

In a more
serious vein...

Here's Eddie speaking an an anti-homophobia rally here in Queens. Alongside him is Kim Kreicker, who was co-chair at the time of Queens Gays and Lesbians United, an organization Eddie founded.

Eddie has explored several career directions during our time together, including a run for the New York State Senate in 1998.

The New York Times, Newsday, and the Amsterdam News endorsed him, which ain't chopped liver, and so did most progressive organizations in town. But he lost to the incumbent and isn't inclined to go through that kind of electoral marathon again.
In 2003 we moved to North Adams, a small city in northwestern Massachusetts, and until Eddie retired in 2009 he worked as Communications Coordinator for the Northern Berkshire Community Coalition.
At left: Ed tanking up on coffee in his NBCC office.

In 2004 we bought a two-family house, complete with tenants upstairs. Then in 2011 we moved to a house in nearby Williamstown that was better suited for guys like us to grow old in.

Below: pictures of us unpacking boxes while Lulu seeks solace under my computer workstation (more about Lulu later).

Some may wonder: Why would anybody want to leave exciting New York City to live in rural New England?


At right:
walking in the
woods with
family friend Rafi.

And of course, there was another small reason to be living in Massachusetts in 2004 after our 26 years together as a couple.
We could get married.
As promised, there's one more family member to talk about before we go.